It’s not how your space looks that matters, it’s how it makes you feel.
If you stand in front of a space or in a doorway and think “I’ve got this. I can handle this” then you don’t really need to change much.
If you stand in front of a space or in a doorway and your heart rate goes up, you feel stressed, you feel the urge to escape or you don’t know where to start; then change is needed.
It doesn’t have to look good. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just needs to be under control.
Don’t worry about how it should look, or how you think others think it should look. Don’t worry about what your neighbour’s looks like, or your sister’s, or the other school parents. Don’t compare your home to the ones you see on TV or in magazines.
As long as you feel like you’ve got control of it, it doesn’t really matter what it looks like. It’s how you feel in your home that matters.